The adult cheating scandal where affluent parents allegedly used their money and connections to get their kids into Ivy League schools has dumbfounded us.  When children cheat on any exam, we usually expect it.  Making mistakes is simply a part of life and the evolution of the growing process.  On the other hand, when adults cheat, they have no excuse.  With their years of experience, they know right from wrong.  As parents, they should be setting a strong moral example for their youngsters.

Many parents, including the most famous ones such as Lori Loughlin and Felicity Huffman, and others face federal charges in the adult cheating scandal.  The investigation of the adult cheating scandal is ongoing and more people could face charges including some students.

According to news reports, what we know about the adult cheating scandal so far is that it was devised by William Rick Singer.  He is the CEO of the college admission prep company called, “The Key.”  The apparent scheme involved upgrading a candidate’s credentials so they could be accepted into a top notch school when the candidate lacked all the necessary qualifications.  As the story goes, parents paid Singer between $15,000 to $75,000 to improve the children’s scores on the SAT or ACT.  Another way that potential candidates got into the school was when their parents apparently paid to falsify their athletic credentials.

Felicity Huffman, who is best known for her role as Scavo on the ABC comedy-drama series, Desperate Housewives, a hit show that aired from 2004 to 2012, reportedly paid $15,000 to have someone take the college admissions test for her daughter.  On March 12, 2019, Huffman was arrested on fraud charges and released on a $250,000 bail.  She will appear in court again on March 29, 2019.

Lori Loughlin, an actress who is best known for her role on Full House (1988 – 1995) and Netflix’s sequel Fuller House (2016 – present), and her husband Mossimo Giannulli, who is a famous fashion designer, supposedly paid $500,000 for their two daughters to get into the University of Southern California as part of a crew team.  The girls had never participated in a rowing team.  They reportedly sent photos of their daughters on a rowing machine to try to make the false credentials look real.  Loughlin and Giannulli each had a bail bond of $1 million dollars.  They are both expected to appear in court on March 29, 2019.

The money that the parents allegedly sent to help their children get into the best colleges was disguised as a charitable donation to (KWF) the Key Worldwide Foundation.  In the adult cheating scandal, the contributions supposedly never helped poor students. Instead, they helped rich students get into the colleges of their choice without the necessary credentials.

Whether we are affluent, middle class or poor, most of us will never be accepted into the top colleges.  In fact, many of the colleges that were allegedly named in the adult cheating scandal, which law enforcement is calling, “Operation Varsity Blues”, include Yale University and Stanford University.

The requirements for getting into Yale University are very stringent indeed.  Potential candidates need to have an academic standing of A+.  They also need to get a score ranging from 1460 – 1580 on the SAT.  If you are not accepted, you will be in the majority since they only have a 7 percent acceptance rate.

Those who aspire to be students at Stanford University must also have very high credentials.  They need to have an A+ academic average.  Their SAT scores must be 1390 to 1540.  If you are accepted into Stanford University, you should consider yourself to be very fortunate and erudite since they only have a 5 percent acceptance rate.

While parents should encourage their children to apply to the college of their choice, they should support them, especially if they are not accepted.  After receiving a rejection letter, parents should encourage their children to apply to other colleges.  As college students send applications, they may expect to receive many rejection letters, but they will eventually find the college that is best suited for their talents and abilities.  Even if it is not a top notch school, being accepted into any college is a major accomplishment.

In this highly competitive society, young people already face plenty of stress.  If their children cannot get into a top college, parents should not pressure them.  Remember that attending a top notch school does not always guarantee success.  No matter what college your child attends, they will have a better future if they earn a degree.

After graduating high school, some kids may decide that they do not want to attend college.  Even though they may not agree with their child’s decision, they should always support and love their child.  Without having a college education, some people do excel in trades and other occupations.

In the adult cheating scandal, perhaps some of the accused parents were really the ones who wanted their kids to go to an Ivy League school.  Maybe their children were not even interested in attending an institution of high caliber.  Through the supposed adult cheating scandal, some of the parents were trying to turn their dreams into reality, using their kids, at any cost.  Having a family member that attends a highly prestigious university could have  been a status symbol in their elite society.

No matter what social class they belong to, parents should teach their children that honest hard labor can make their dreams come true.  If you cannot fulfill your aspirations honestly, cheating is never the answer.  After you tried really hard, there is nothing wrong with failing.  When we fail, we learn from our mistakes, and it may help us to be successful next time.  Even though you cannot always have everything that you want in life, money and privilege should not be used like a trampoline to eliminate the competition.